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Fred Rogers was the iconic television host of a program for children called “Mr. Rogers’ Neighborhood.” He taught love and kindness.

Mr. Rogers grew up in Latrobe, Pennsylvania, and graduated from Latrobe High School. He attended Dartmouth College, then Rollins College, where he earned a degree. He subsequently became a Presbyterial minister. In the 1960s, he lived in the Squirrel Hill and attended the Sixth Presbyterian Church.

This is the advice his mother gave him, when there was tragedy: “Look for the helpers.”

The community of Squirrel Hill mourned last night. Mourners met at the Sixth Presbyterian Church in Pittsburgh, around the corner from the Tree of Life Synagogue, where the massacre occurred.

That church was Fred Rogers’ church.

People said to one another, “Look for the helpers,” quoting Mr. Rogers.

PITTSBURGH — Under a persistent drizzle on Saturday, more than 500 people stood shoulder-to-shoulder during a vigil in front of Sixth Presbyterian Church of Pittsburgh to express shock and anger over the mass shooting at Tree of Life Synagogue around the corner.

The church has a storied history of fighting for social justice and was the home congregation of the late Fred Rogers, a humanitarian who starred in the “Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood” television program.

The service was designed to show the unity in this city after 11 people were shot and killed at the synagogue during Saturday services. As they wept and sang religious hymns, the mourners who gathered said the shooting will spur them to greater action in tackling anti-Semitism, assault rifles and fighting poverty.

“You are seeing all of these people show up from this community, because we care about love,” said Jenna Cramer, 37, who lives in Pittsburgh’s Point Breeze neighborhood. “This is Mr. Rogers’s neighborhood and this is a neighborhood where we serve…”

Throughout the day, as the news sunk in here, Cramer said her friends began sharing one of Rogers’s best-known quotes. In times of trouble, Rogers, who died in 2003, used to tell children to “look for the helpers” so they know they are not alone.

“All of these people here are ‘looking for the helpers,” Cramer said, “because that is what this neighborhood is about…

“One of the oldest Jewish neighborhoods in the United States is here, and we value and love our neighbors, and we are not going to allow them to stand alone through this,” said the Rev. Vincent Kolb, the pastor at Sixth Presbyterian Church…”

When it concluded, hundreds broke into a spontaneous chant of “vote, vote, vote …”

“We have a president that doesn’t understand the dark forces that he has unleashed,” said Ed Wolf, 62, who is Jewish and has attended services at Tree of Life synagogue.

Wolf noted that he’s worshiped at numerous synagogues in Europe.

“I used to marvel at the level of security they have, and I would always leave those places thinking how lucky I am to live in a place where we don’t have to think about stuff like that,” said Wolf, as he began to cry.

Beth Venditti, Wolf’s wife, said anti-Semitic fliers and some graffiti occasionally appears in the community. But Venditti said Jews “always felt safe here.”

“There has been precious little hate until today,” said Venditti, 62.

She also fears Trump will not be able to rise to the occasion to help stamp out violence and anti-Semitism.

“We had a president who stood up and sang ‘Amazing Grace’ after Charleston,” said Venditti, referring to President Obama’s response after Dylann Roof killed nine worshipers at a church with a predominantly African American congregation in Charleston, S.C., in 2015. “That ain’t going to happen now.”

In our modern media environment, major news disappears within a day or two.

Will that happen now?

Steven Singer knows the synagogue and community where an anti-Semitic zealot slaughtered innocent worshippers.

It’s a community that welcomes diversity.

He writes:

I know this community.

I am an extended part of it.

And that’s something of which I am proud.

Just walk along Murray Avenue and you’ll see Indian, Italian, Jewish, African, Chinese – every nationality imaginable – offering the fruits of their culture for friendly commerce.

You’ll see Hasidic Jews in dark hats and flowing tzitzit walking next to women in colorful saris next to trans and lesbians, kids with every color skin playing together in harmony.

Whenever I want a good corned beef sandwich or a quality lox and bagel, I go there. Whenever I want a spicy curry or the freshest sushi or an authentic macaroon, that’s the place. If I want to hear a string quartet or a lecture from a visiting dignitary or even if I want to swim in a public pool, membership to the Jewish Community Center is open to all.

It’s like a few blocks of cosmopolitan life tucked away in a city more known for segregation. We have many ethnic neighborhoods but few where one culture flows so easily into another.

Heck. Even the Tree of Life Synagogue, itself, doesn’t serve one congregation. It serves three who all had services going on at different parts of the building this morning.

There’s just something very special about this place.

It’s where you can go to be yourself – in fact, you’re encouraged to be who you are and not conform to any particular norm. Yet in doing so, you’re somehow demonstrating unity.

A hater arrived to kill.

President Trump says we shouldn’t blame lax gun laws. President Trump says the synagogue should have had armed guards.

Is this the new normal?

Singer thinks Squirrel Hill should be our new normal.

I wish America was more like Squirrel Hill and not the other way around.

If this community’s normal was our national ideal, think of the country we would be living in!

Vote. Vote out the NRA puppets who want to arm everyone and turn our nation into an armed camp, filled with haters.

Vote.

The “I Promise School” sponsored by LeBron James as part of the Akron public school system is the most innovative school in America. Its focus is on developing healthy children, whose dreams are big and whose education equips them to make a life for themselves. It accepts only children with low test scores. It’s goal is to help children overcome trauma. Its philosophy is informed by LeBron James’ experiences as a child growing up in dire circumstances.

Contrast this school, where children are surrounded by love and caring, with the harsh and punitive “no excuses” charter schools. Read this article and answer the question: Which is better? Love or Fear? Charter advocates should learn about this school and learn from its example.

The greatest of all innovations: a school in which love and kindness are built in as policy.

This article by Eddie Kim goes into detail. I am not posting the whole article. I urge you to read it. It is inspiring.

It begins:


An eight-year-old LeBron James sometimes didn’t attend school because there was no one who could give him a ride. He sometimes skipped class outright, instead playing video games by himself at the ramshackle one-bedroom home in Akron, Ohio, owned by a friend of his mom, who would disappear during the day. Other times, Gloria James and her son were simply too entangled in the task of securing a place to sleep and food to eat that night. “We’ll just skip today,” they’d tell each other. Then another day would rise and fall, and another, with no attendance in class.

Ultimately, James skipped nearly 100 days of school as a fourth grader in Akron. He had moved a dozen times in the three-year span between age five and eight, with Gloria struggling on welfare and relying on a network of friends to give them shelter when the rent ran dry. He didn’t play sports. He barely had friends. He lagged on basic reading, writing and math skills.

What got James back in school was the stabilizing force of Bruce Kelker, the Pee Wee football coach at James’ elementary school who first discovered his athletic talent. Kelker offered to house James, with Gloria (who could live with a friend) welcome at any time to see her son. Toward the end of 1993, Kelker and his live-in girlfriend decided to move, but another youth football coach at the school, “Big” Frank Walker, extended his suburban Akron home to James.

James credits both families for steadying his life and getting him back in school, and the saga between fourth and fifth grades has become one of the superstar’s favorite allegories. But more than just a motivational tale, James has taken his experience and molded it into a philosophy on what it takes to keep poor and stressed-out kids on the right track.

That philosophy now exists in physical form with the I Promise School, a new campus that opened a month ago as part of the Akron Public Schools system. It debuted with 240 third- and fourth-graders who are struggling academically and largely from underprivileged families. The school will grow to include first through eighth grades by fall 2022, but the fundamental features of the program are already in place.

School days are longer, running from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m., as is the school year (from July through May) in order to take pressure off working parents. Students receive free breakfast, lunch and snacks. There’s a new grading system in place for the kids, as well as “support circle” sessions each day to help students learn how to calm their emotions and talk through challenges. Parents, too, are given more feedback at school (in individualized meetings with advisors) and also offered help in the form of housing and job-placement services, GED classes and a food bank — all things that James’ mother, Gloria, could have benefitted from too…

This is where Nicole Hassan and a squad of veteran Akron Public Schools staffers stepped in, organizing half a dozen “design teams” last year to hash out every ambition they could bake into the DNA of I Promise School. The teams spent months debating features that today form a public school unlike any other in the country. It’s supported in part by the LeBron James Family Foundation — it’s pledged $2 million a year to support the school’s growth — but otherwise funded by taxpayers as part of the Akron system. It’s an experiment in what a public institution can do to help kids in the most crucial aspect of their development into adulthood. “The hope is that this can become a model for more schools across the country in urban centers where young students need the most hope,” Hassan says….

The biggest point is with it being public is that it’s something that can carry over across the country. Our mission is to be a nationally recognized model for urban education. The common idea is that it’s easier to do a charter school, or it’s easier to do private because you don’t have to work within the confines of a public school system. But then those schools are only available to certain students, whereas every community has a public school. I want the elements of I Promise to be the norm for our district and spread across the nation so that in Chicago, in Detroit and in other areas where students have a lot of trauma, they’re utilizing these practices as well.

Of course, one of the things we’d love to see is that other communities help support such a school. A lot of our contributions have been from community partners beyond LeBron’s foundation. It’s important that LeBron’s a part of it, but he definitely couldn’t do it alone, and I think other communities could generate the same contribution. Honestly, if we believe that education is the way to create generational change and improve a community, then communities need to start supporting the school system in a real way.

Of course, LeBron James deserves a place on the honor roll. So does the Akron public school system, which thought through the whole child, loving-kindness policies of this innovative school.

Thanks to reader Christine Langhoff for bringing this article to my attention.

What can we do about the humanitarian crisis on our southern border?

Can caring and kindness overcome politics and inhumanity?

This group of grandmothers has an answer. They are heading South!

Go to their webpage to see the links.

The Grannies say:

“We have watched in disgust, disbelief, and pain as migrating children and families are separated, tortured, and dehumanized.

“Enough. We are heading for the border. Everyone is invited to join us.
We are a group of women from New York and Pennsylvania who are worried sick about the treatment of children and their families immigrating to the United States. To rip innocent kids from their moms and dads – even babies from the breast! – is more than immoral; it is depraved.

“We live in a world in which we need to share responsibility. It’s easy to say, ‘It’s not my child, not my community, not my world, not my problem.’ Then there are those who see the need and respond. I consider those people my heroes.
— Fred Rogers”

“We’ve been around long enough to know right from wrong. We’ve spent our lives caring for others. And we won’t stand for this.

“You’ve donated. You’ve made calls. You’ve rallied. Now join the grannies!

“OUR PLAN

“On Tuesday, July 31, we grannies and a bunch of our friends and allies are setting out on a 6-day road trip from New York City to Texas. We will hold rallies along the way with the hope that a message of basic human decency can overcome fear and inhumanity.

“Rally with us or join our caravan at any of these stops. Watch this page, or Facebook or Twitter, for more details.

“Click on the location for the Facebook invitation.

Tuesday, July 31, New York, NY
Tuesday July 31: Reading, PA
Wednesday Aug 1: Pittsburgh, PA
Thursday Aug 2: Louisville, KY
Friday Aug 3: Montgomery, AL
Saturday Aug 4: New Orleans, LA
Sunday Aug 5: Houston, Texas

“On Monday Aug 6, we will reach our border destination, still to be announced because the situation is so fluid.

“We hope that our caravan will grow in each city. Join here.

“We hope that we’ll inspire you to start caravans of your own. Start yours here.

“We hope that we will build a movement of caring and kindness that rises above politics… and reunite and free migrating families.”

Steven Singer writes his thoughts on Father’s Day, about the fathered lucky to have lobing children, about the children with no father, and about the children ripped from their fayhers’ arms at the border, while the rest of us watch in horror or silence, or even, with satisfaction.

 

The Schott Foundation for Public Education is one of the small number of foundations that unabashedly supports public educations and understands its importance in a democratic society. Under the leadership of its dynamic president, John Jackson, it seeks not to privatize schools but to make them much, much better places for children to learn and grow to their full potential.

Schott recently developed a new measurement, which it calls “the loving cities index.” 

The brilliance of this measure is that it quantifies not test scores or other measures that can be corrupted and gamed, but measures the environment and those who hold the levers of power.

“As racism and hate continue to dominate the national dialogue, the Schott Foundation for Public Education released the Loving Cities Index, a multi-state report that aims to reverse historical local policies and practices rooted in racism and bias and replace them with policies that create local loving systems from birth and promote an opportunity to learn and thrive.

“By providing this new framework, the Loving Cities Index helps cities evaluate how well they are doing at providing all children – regardless of race, gender or zip code – with the supports and opportunities they need to learn and succeed. Noting that after decades of education reform, parental income remains the top predictor of student outcomes, the report challenges the notion that school-based reforms alone can provide students a fair and substantive opportunity to learn.

“The report also highlights a large and growing body of research showing a clear connection between economic and racial inequality and opportunity gaps in areas like housing, health care and community involvement. These issues lie outside of the traditional education realm, but are intimately linked to high school and college attainment.”

 

Mercedes Schneider posted a commentary by James Kirylo, who responds to the extremists who say that God was ousted from the public schools. 

Really?

He writes:

”To say that a reason why school shootings happen is because we have taken God or prayer out of the schools is too simplistic, if not too ridiculous, an explanation. To communicate that to the parents of the children assassinated at Stoneman Douglas would not only be heartless, but also, it seems to me, such a message would be a theologically and spiritually scandalous description of an omnipotent, loving God.

“Moreover, the notion of the “removal” of God is to grossly diminish the sacrificial witness of those educators who stood in harm’s way in the attempt to save what students they could at the school.

“Heroes in our Midst

“Take for example, the geography teacher, Scott Beigel, 35, who was murdered while scampering to get students away from the gunfire. As one student, Kelsey Friend, shared, “Mr. Beigel was my hero and he still will forever be my hero. I will never forget the actions that he took for me and for fellow students in the classroom.” I am alive today because of him.”

“Then there was assistant football coach Aaron Feis, 37, who bravely threw himself in front of students, suffering a grave wound, dying on the surgery table. Colton Haab, a 17-year-old junior at the school, said “That’s Coach Feis. He wants to make sure everybody is safe before himself.”

“Finally, there was Chris Hixon, 49, the school’s athletic director and wrestling coach, who died while trying to save students. Mourning the loss, Karlos Valentin, a senior on the wrestling squad stated, “Coach Hixon, for me, was a father figure.”

“By any definition, these educators are heroes, even modern day martyrs, who exemplify what it means to lay down their lives for their friends.

“The greatest witness of any educator, and in particular for those who claim to believe in a loving God, is not what they say, but what they do in how they demonstrate love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, gentleness, and care for all their students. Courageously, some great educators at Stoneman Douglas personified the ultimate act of love.”

“Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.”

A friend recommended “Come from Away,” the story of a small town in Newfoundland that was  overwhelmed on 9/11 when diverted airplanes start landing, bringing thousands of strangers. Then I saw a tweet by James Comey, saying that he loved it.

I don’t usually make theatrical choices based on a Comey tweet, but the combination was irresistible.

I saw it today. It was wonderful.

It reminds us of what our society has lost: generosity of spirit. Kindness.

See it.

This is not just a New York play. Opportunities to see the musical are growing, with a second company now performing in Canada and a third set to launch a North American tour in Seattle in October.

The best dramas and musicals cross cultures, time, space.

This is what the writers of the play said about it.

New York audiences have included many people close to the tragedy, and to Hein and Sankoff. At a recent performance the couple attended, viewers included both their 4-year-old daughter’s teacher and a firefighter’s widow.

Having their young child accompany them through Come From Away’s progress has been especially meaningful. “The show reminds us to teach our daughter to be kind, how important that is in this world,” says Hein. Sankoff adds, “It takes a unique kind of bravery to do that, to be kind. Sometimes it’s seen as a kind of weakness, but really, one of the riskiest things to do is to open yourself up to people. To sit down and push away is easy.”

To further promote that message, the Come From Away team has done “a ton of education outreach,” Hein notes. “So many teachers have come to see it. People who weren’t born when 9/11 happened have come and been really moved.”

Imagine that: a message that kindness matters.

 

At a time when the White House is a source of vulgarity and racism, it is inspiring to read about the young children who entered a contest to display their understanding of Dr. King’s message as it applies today.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/inspired-life/wp/2018/01/13/i-may-not-look-like-dr-king-but-i-believe-like-dr-king-a-childs-stirring-homage-to-mlk/?utm_term=.144588f0f530

I have a dream. My dream is that these young people will spend an hour in the White House tutoring Mr. Trump.

 

 

Denis Smith tells the stories of two very different people in Urbana, Ohio. 

One is a heartwarming story about a good man who acted kindly towards two impoverished children at Christmastime, whose story appeared on the CBS Sunday Morning show as an example of a man with a big heart.

The other story is about a mean-spirited Congressman from Urbana who enjoys protecting the rich and killing federal programs that help the poor and needy children.

One man is remembered long after his death for his kindness and warm heart. The other, a Congressman named Jim Jordan, inspires contempt and loathing. Former GOP House Speaker Jim Boehner referred to Jim Jordan as a “legislative terrorist.” No one ever refers to him as kind or caring. He reserves his “caring” for corporations.

Here’s hoping the Democratic Party finds a good candidate to challenge this heartless, unkind, uncaring, uninspiring member of Congress.