You know what happens when you say to somebody, “How are you?” Either they tell you, “Fine, thank you,” or they answer truthfully, telling you more than you want to know. Much more than you want to know. Lots of people have asked me how I’m doing. I am going to tell you. If you don’t want to know, stop reading right now.
As readers know, I tripped and fell in April. I didn’t hold the handrail. I landed on a patio stone on my knee and tore ligaments and tendons. I had total knee replacement in May. I started physical therapy right away and thought I was making progress. I advanced from a walker to a cane. But at the end of July, I suddenly got a huge hematoma on the operated leg, and the blood settled in my knee. As a result, I couldn’t bend or straighten my knee, and I regressed to the walker. All of this was very depressing. I saw no end in sight. After a lifetime of activity, I was suddenly disabled. I couldn’t adjust mentally.
I switched physical therapists. The new therapist, Karen Y., is incredibly knowledgable about all things physiological. After a few sessions, she told me that she believed I had arthrofibrosis, a condition in which the knee is encased in scar tissue. I had an MRI; she was right. At her suggestion, I went to see Dr. Frank Noyes of Mercy Hospital and the Cincinnati Sports Medicine Institute, who is a surgeon and an expert on arthrofibrosis. He confirmed the diagnosis and advised against any additional surgery, due to the risks and my age. His staff built a rigid cast for my leg, which forces it to be straight; I wear it every night. It worked. It straightened my leg. I ride a stationery bike every day. I’m walking without a cane. Karen is teaching me to walk without limping. I’m not completely recovered yet. The thing about scar tissue is that it never goes away. I have to exercise every day. But I’m feeling better. I’m feeling hopeful.
What kept me going was my loving partner, who took care of me, went to every doctor’s visit, and made sure that life went on when I was down and unable to do anything but mope. And I counted on the blog. It was my daily work. It kept me engaged, distracted me from my problems, put me in touch with my virtual friends, involved me in what I enjoy most: thinking.
I have learned what it means to have a disability. I can’t walk more than a couple of blocks without getting exhausted. I have to build up my quadriceps. I have to build up my strength. I have started traveling again, on a limited basis. I was in Connecticut last month. I will be in Nashville in a few weeks, then in Phoenix. In January, i will be in Waco and Dallas. I won’t travel more than once a month.
Since April, I have not had the intellectual energy to write anything longer than posts on the blog. It took enormous effort to review Yong Zhao’s book, and I was thrilled when I finally completed the review. It was a big step forward for me.
As you can tell, I was feeling sorry for myself for months. Then I heard about Karen Lewis, and I felt like a jerk. All I have is a bum knee, and she’s fighting a brain tumor. That puts things into perspective. I will be fine. Let’s pray for her. I want her to recover fully.
Stuff happens. None of us knows what life has in store for us. Let’s try to be kinder.

Good advice and glad you are feeling stronger.
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Very glad to hear you are better.
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I love you, Diane. I donât even know you, and I love you. You give me and countless others strength every day. I count on reading your blog, so thank you for continuing to write. I am grateful for everything you do for public school teachers. I hope to meet you one day in Madison or in Chicago at Women and Children First.
Take care,
Eve Degen
Executive Assistant for Labor Relations
Madison Teachers Inc.
821 Williamson Street
Madison WI 53703
608-257-0491
608-257-1168 (fax)
degene@madisonteachers.org
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Well put, Eve. And, isn’t this internet thing funny. You KNOW someone even though you really don’t know them…..in the old fashioned way, that is….. We are very lucky Diane has persevered on here.
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Perspective from experience matters. So glad that you are doing better. Struggles. Seems we do become complacent. Thanking you as always for your dedication to our children and tbeir education. Hearing about your situation makes me think about a wide array of things. So in sharing your journey I think you help others in ways you can’t imagine. Praying you wil continue to improve. You really are needed and appreciated.
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Good that you have found experts to help and have physical and psychological support. Mind is intact and writing is clear and cogent. Sign of an expert: You make it all look easy. Sign of humanity and values: Straight talk. All appreciated. The blog works both ways to keep some of us sane.
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So glad you are seeing the sun again. May you continue progressing.
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Isn’t it amazing how finding the right people can lead to success in health issues. My knee was operated on at HSS because I was told they were the best. My problems still persist due to arthritis. But back then I was lucky to find a PT who worked one on one–and that’s rare. Unfortunately, he no longer works for that practice. And I have yet to find a good PT.
I am a big believer that angels are not always celestial in nature. It was something my dentist said to me after she had asked how I doing that got me to see a doctor, and lucky for me, my cancer was caught early. Karen Y. was your angel and she led you to the right people.
I too was devastated by Karen’s medical condition. But she was back on FB the other day regarding the story of a NYS teacher taking VAM to court. She was met with such good wishes. We need both of you.
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Prayers for both of you! Hopeful that you realize how inspirational your work and blog are for those of us who just want to teach.
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Dear Dr Ravitch, We knew you were contending w. your knee and rehabilitation but wouldn’t have known the extent because your insights and writing all summer and fall have been outstanding. Glad that you got important diagnosis & that treatment worked. It was terrific that you could appear at Brooklyn education forum. Be safe, and a little cautious, in your upcoming travels.
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Good NEWS, Diane. Thank goodness you are on the mend.
For you and others, check out this YouTube post and enjoy. I love what this three-year-old said, “My dream is to make people happy because I am happy.”
This is worth the watch. Too bad our policy makers aren’t as wise or caring.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZgJgb4-58_Q
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Best wishes!
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Well, I am glad you have a great therapist. Excellent!! And I am glad you are getting un-depressed, which is a very important thing. Very important. I hope in some way this election works out in a way that will also help—for your sake and for all of our sakes. I wish there were some way that Cuomo could go down. He is just such a jerk. Take good care and keep on keeping on!
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Let us all be kinder. That is excellent advice. All the best to you, Diane.
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Bob Shepherd: what you said.
And thank you for saying it.
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I had a sign in my classroom for 21 years which read: kindness leaves no scars! Keep your chin up and keep on healing!
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Diane -both you and Karen Lewis are amazing advocates for children. I have you both in my daily thoughts and hopes for a quick/healthy recovery. Thank you for the update, thank you for your profound words – “Let’s try to be kinder.” ^0^
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Thanks a lot for having written this and my best wishes for a steady recovery
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So good to hear you’ve turned the corner Diane. Great advice for all of us. Continued prayers for progress in your recovery. Your writings are an inspiration to us all.
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You are my inspiration. Your blog and advice keeps me grounded on what’s important in life especially when people’s lives are affected by decisions made by others. Kindness to others should never be taken for granted. Thank you for always being there for us.
((((H U G S))))
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Thank you. In this case, no, there aren’t too many details.
Perspective, yes!
Various things were getting me down too [not quite as serious as your situation but including family and personal health issues] and then I saw this on the national news.
From yesterday’s CLEVELAND PLAIN DEALER, excerpts:
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Terminally ill Mount St. Joseph freshman Lauren Hill’s layups on Sunday began the college basketball season in a way that emotionally drained Hiram College players and coaches won’t soon forget. …
Hill, 19, has Diffuse Intrinsic Pontine Glioma (DIPG), an inoperable form of brain cancer, and she received a terminal diagnosis in September. She was given months to live and feared she would not achieve her goal of playing in a college basketball game.
The season opener originally was to be Nov. 15 at Hiram. When approached by Mount St. Joseph this fall, Hiram coaches and officials agreed to move the game, with NCAA approval, so it could be played soon enough for Hill before her deteriorating condition prevented her from playing at all. …
At halftime, legendary former Tennessee coach Pat Summitt gave Hill the Pat Summitt Most Courageous Award. The award normally is presented at the end of the season during the women’s NCAA Final Four, but in an unprecedented move, it was presented early to Hill. Summitt, who is suffering from early onset Altzheimer’s disease, was making a rare public appearance.
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Lauren Hill came in briefly at the beginning and end of the game and scored both times.
Link: http://www.cleveland.com/sports/college/index.ssf/2014/11/mount_st_joseph_basketball_pla_1.html
“Diane Ravitch’s blog A site to discuss better education for all” — when it comes to education, the best place to put things in context and get some needed perspective.
And most Krazy loving props to your partner. One of those Greek guys knew how lucky you are:
“Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.” [Aristotle]
My best to both of you and Karen Lewis.
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Thanks, KrazyTA. Great story.
Here’s one about some great athletes & sportspeople who are winners, even if the state high school league disqualified them:
http://www.twincities.com/prep/ci_26860440/minnesota-high-school-runners-disqualified-helping-opponent-who
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The power of prayer and good energy is important in our lives. When we turn our attention to others as you so often do…we realize that we are in this together. We need everyone healthy to do what is right for our children.
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Have my own personal gauge as to how you are doing and that is quantity of your posts on this blog.. You had to be doing much better because i have had a problem keeping up. And it is great that you can travel now. The trip to the Arizona School Boards Association in Phoenix is big, could be a needed shot in the arm. I joke that the only reason I am running for the local school board is so I could hear you speak. So congratulations on all accounts.
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Thank you for the update. I hope it gives you a great deal of spiritual strength to know how many of us out here–without real power and influence but passionately interested in education because we are parents–read your blog and take courage from it. I think that it’s at the local level, whether on neighborhood playgrounds or on listservs/social media or in our own children’s schools, that we can make a difference in what we say or do because you are helping us by showing us the bigger picture. The other place where our ideas matter, of course, is the polling place, and here you help us by showing us what is behind the relentless ads, robo calls, and mailings–all funded by people who do not have our children’s interests in mind.
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Diane – So glad to hear you are getting better – keep on following directions & know you are in our thoughts & prayers… I always knew you were a strong woman to take on the oligarchs, but you are also wise in so many ways… a disability can be a royal pain (to say the least!), but it also forces us to realize how blessed we are with people who love us (and need us too!)… I’ve always tried to make my classroom be a “kinder” place… I tell the kids to be kind ’cause we have no idea what kinds of problems others face… a disability is a constant reminder that we are not perfect nor are we invincible & it does matter that we choose to live our lives loving & sharing & being kind!
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Keep on truckin’
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Thank you for all the work you do. It is important to people like me. I am fighting for our libraries in Queens. Having strong, smart women like you and Karen Lewis fighting the good fight is an inspiration. You have no idea the levels of corruption that go on here. I find myself wanting to do more and more to expose what has been done and yet the really good work librarians do in the face of this poverty. So, please, keep on keeping on. Thank you.
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Praying for you and Karen Lewis.
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Thanks so much for the update. Someone said, very cogently, “growing old ain’t for sissies”. I can attest to that also.
Yes, you are fortunate to have a loving companion AND a good therapist. Not everyone has both or even one.
Sometimes, as you intimate, one has to be thankful for what they DO have and not dwell on what they don’t have.
You do amazing work and we are all deeply indebted to you. That is not just teachers but the whole United States which relies on quality education.
We thank you most humbly for ALL you have done in the past and look forward to having your work in the future.
God bless!!!
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Professor Ravitch
I’m happy to hear your spirits are lifted and you’re progressing and moving forward. I know it’s been very hard for you mentally and physically but don’t give up. Your work, your mind, your heart are needed in the constant attack against public school teachers.
You are one of the most eloquent and knowledgeable scholars on the battle against school privatization. Your work is needed. You’re a treasured resource to me and I look forward to your blog posts, books, interviews and NYRB reviews.
Don’t give up. Keep your head strong.
I wish you well and I’m looking forward to you continuing your hard and important work.
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I’m sorry you had to go through this-it sounds like you handled the despair and frustration a lot better than I would. Thankfully, you are on the mend. Diane, we need you to be our voice and leader. You speak not just for teachers but for the students we love and serve. Whatever you can give, we will take and spread the word and take action.
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Great advice, and I hope you continue to get stronger. You are one of my inspirations for standing up to these education reformers. Thank you!
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We, the members of Texas Kids Can’t Wait, are delighted that you are doing better! We also are eagerly anticipating your trip to Texas, specifically Waco, in January. We are already getting calls and emails wanting details since lots of people want to be at Baylor for your speech. If we can assist you in any way, please let us know.
Keep on taking care of yourself. So important!
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Dear Diane, Thank you for your update and for sharing your challenges and your courage ! Being in your age group, lucky enough to have only the minor slowdowns of aging, seeing my friends coping with all manner of disabilities, I find your candor and dedication to keep doing the important work you do inspirational.
I am a total devotee of your blog and use it and its links to “fire up” my education classes and my Grandmothers Union to fight for the survival of public education in this nation !
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Neither you nor Karen Lewis could ever “limp” along. Both of you, have too much commitment to doing the right thing and, as a result, you both soar, no matter the temporal conditions.
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Diane, I am glad to hear of your recovery, and I appreciate the details of your journey. You have provided a forum for us to share our journey to save public education and it is good to keep this fight in perspective by knowing of other health and life battles. I think of you and Karen Lewis every single day. I will try to be kinder.
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Thanks for this report, dear pal. You have certainly fooled the public, for your multiple daily posts have kept us enlightened and in the battle.
So glad you found the right physical therapist who finally led you to the right treatment. Such an important lesson for us all, to know not to succumb to ineffective medial treatment. I look forward to your next visit to my land of the often “unhinged.”
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Prayers for you. Just keep up the exercise. It can keep you from getting locked up in a nursing home. Sounds like God guided you to the right PT.
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If you fly, be sure to ask for a seat with extra leg room. They are squishing people in nowadays ant that would not be good for your knee. You might need a note from your doctor.
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Good to hear you are feeling better. As someone with an annoying, fatiguing, slowly disabling, but NOT fatal condition, I completely get the gratitude part. I’ve seen friends die from cancer, AIDS, and other illnesses….. but I’m still here, and like you, plugging along. May you live long and prosper. We need your voice.
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GREAT news with regard to your physical progress…YAY!! When and where will you be in Phoenix? Myself and others will want to be in attendance!! I keep praying for your FULL recovery…be well…WE NEED YOU!!
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You have been on our prayer list through all of it and will continue to be there each day.
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So well said. Wishing you the best.
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So happy you are feeling better and getting stronger.
This is how I am doing: I just wrote in a candidate on my ballot. “No more excuses” for anti-public school candidates. Thanks for bringing me along, Diane.
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Diane, best wishes for your continued good progress! Good news!!
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Best wishes from a member of your really extended family. So happy to hear the good news.
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Your review was wonderful. Keep on keeping on. So glad you have a good support system! We’re all rooting for you!
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Dear Dr. Ravitch:
I really treasure your advice and wisdom. You are one of many seen seen Angels on Earth with God given mission to protect American Public Education.
Human beings mean to be creative, loving and kind. Therefore, your last sentence in this post,
” Stuff happens. None of us knows what life has in store for us. Let’s try to be kinder.”
brings out a message to us and reformers that we are human beings, we need to be humanity to each other. I wish you a speedy and complete recovery.
Very respectfully yours,
May King in Cannada
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Thanks Diane. What an inspiration your are to all of us! God bless. Take care of yourself.
James Harvey
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You and Karen rock!
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I try not to respond too often because I feel you are probably swamped with things to read. I just want you to know that you are so beloved by so many and we really wish the very best for you. We are all entitled to our down moments. We send Karen Lewis our best, our prayers, our hopes and we send you the same! Date: Tue, 4 Nov 2014 16:01:07 +0000 To: dpayne34@msn.com
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Pardon the topical intrusion, but I was suddenly struck by the thought: what if in physical therapy we had the very narrow range of top-down mandated skills and facts demanded by the self-styled “education reformers” with their CCSS and VAMania and high-stakes standardized tests?
In the effort to standardize and bring to scale in order to make a profit, there would be a monoculture [thank you, Bob Shepherd] of physical therapists, all [to the extent possible] with the same exact ways of thinking and acting.
Hence, no possibility of switching therapists in order to find one that was thinking and acting “out of the box” and being “innovative” and “creative” in order to address individual needs and wants.
Just sayin’…
I am glad that Diane wasn’t faced with that possible rheeality…
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So thankful for your recovery. Thank you for sharing with us. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
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Diane,
As a person who has lived with being Hydrocephalic for the last 42 years, I count myself blessed that I am high functioning and twice blessed for the family I was born into and the woman I married and the two kids we have. My medical condition throughout my life has brought me through many physical and emotional trials and since I have a shunt with a shelf life, I am sure more trials await. Your life work is an inspiration to me because of your humanistic approach. Part of being human is needing help, depending on others, and fighting our own inner demons in the face of insurmountable depression. I remember in those moments a feeling of hopelessness and dispair. If only we could fast forward our lives in those moments to see the goals we will one day achieve if we just keep fighting, but we cannot. All we have is faith that if our life feels like a closed dark box, one day light will shine through. We must live for that faith!
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This is very inspirational! Thank you for these words, and all the best to you.
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Diane,
You will NEVER know how many lives you have touched and how many eyes you have opened. You are a HERO in every sense of the word. You inspire all of us to dig deeper and fight harder. Don’t ever underestimate how much you are loved from every corner of this country, and probably the world, at this point. Don’t minimize what you have gone through. We are keeping you and Karen in our thoughts and hope to see both of you together stronger than ever standing with us to fight the biggest fight of all: Our Democracy. Peace and happiness to you and your partner.
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Thank you sooooo much for all you have done and continue to do! I hope some day when my grandchildren are old enough to understand, that then I can tell them about people like yourself who give so much to help the less fortunate and those without a voice.
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Dear Ms. Ravitch,
Grieved to hear about your painful tribulations, but delighted that you are progressing. You have been a light in the darkness of the assault on public education — and I hope and pray you will continue to be that light for long. — Arjun Janah, Brooklyn, NY
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Glad to hear you’re doing well again, Diane. Keep up the good work in your recovery.
And throw yourself a bone! You don’t have just a little ol’ “bum knee”– you suffered a major injury. Immobility is a scourge, indeed. Wishing you and Karen Lewis speedy healing!
(Sorry if this posts twice–my first one seems to have gotten lost in cyberspace.)
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You are awesome and we all wish you nothing but the best. Thanks for all you do…you might not thinks it’s much right now but it’s more than many of us are doing!!! Well all strive to do 1/2 as much!!!
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You’re the best, Diane! As they say, keep on keepin’ on–we need you!!!
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Diane, you are a fantastic person and an inspiration. I look forward to reading your blogs every day.
Thank you for working to help teachers. I’m a retired music teacher and am encouraged by your continuing work to ensure that teachers become respected once again.
Thank you for all you do to make this world better! Thank you for all the work you do!!!
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Welcome to the jerkdom club! I have to remind myself frequently not to indulged myself with a pity party for too long. My mother used to threaten us when we got particularly whiny with giving us something to really cry about. You would have think I would have learned by now. 🙂
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Diane,
You are an inspiration to me. I am a fifth grade teacher – and I love what I do. But I have felt so attacked by politicians and “reformers”. Please continue to exercise and get well. We need your insight and support!
Teaching in Northern Michigan –
Doris Feys
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I am so happy you are doing so much better and found a good physical therapist. I see that you are coming to Phoenix, as planned. I hope they are going to allow some of us teachers in to see you. I will keep my eyes and ears open. I am so looking forward to hearing you speak. Thanks for all you do. I’m also happy you took care of yourself!
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God bless you, Diane. Even on those days when I have more in my in-box than I can handle, I still manage to read most of your posts. You keep me going, and I wish I could do the same for you. Never give up fighting for what you believe in!
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I love you and am so grateful for your posts.
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Thank you for all you do ! We love you !
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So glad to hear you have a good therapist and have found how to deal with your new knee. The bike riding is a necessity!! My husband had TKR last year and has to use the bike daily, too. Sure do appreciate all you do and am very thankful you continued faithfully with your blog.
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Thank you for your honesty, for challenging us to appeal to our “better angels”, and requiring us to demand authenticity from all – including ourselves. You validated our questions, encouraged us to persevere, and never berated us when we disagreed. Positive and healing thoughts, prayers – whatever offerings or petitions our individual paths dictate – we give on your behalf.
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Vry glad to hear you have a spot-on diagnosis, & now are receiving the proper treatment and recovery plan–it makes all the difference! And infinite thanks to your partner who, indeed, with her love and care, helped all of us, as well, because WE need you well! Much gratitude to her, and good wishes to you both.
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Thanks for making a difference even when it was harder than we knew.
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Just exactly what I needed to read this morning!
Thank you, congratulations, and keep up the good work, physically, mentally, and social/emotionally!
When you come to my area, I will be there!
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Sending love and so happy that you are feeling better. Your recovery process, your tenacity, sorrow and discovery of healing alternatives may end up mirroring the next two years in our USA country. We have some big bumps ahead of us. We will need each other more than ever before. It will be the folks with the everyday, practical competence who will help us hop, hobble and heave ourselves forward into a more humane, creative and intelligent territory. But we will get there because we must. It is what life holds in store for all of us until it is our time to go. Karen Lewis is a part of this big work more than ever before.
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Much love to you, Diane. What a pleasure it is to read a post as wise as this one. Thank you, and remember, when you get down in the dumps, how many of us there are who hold you in our hearts.
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So happy to hear that you are continuing to heal and improve. I had a life threatening leg injury from a car accident 20 years ago. They almost had to amputate. I was casted for 5 months and out of work for 10 months. I could not even walk through a department store without having to sit down. With continued physical therapy and “grit” by the time 3 years had passed I was walking the mall without a cane. You can do it! It stinks to have to depend on people for everything, but thank God you have someone to lean on. Give your partner an extra hug and a thank you from me. You can do it!
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Everything you say echoes with me. There’s a famous country western song, “Live Like Your Dying;” the message is simple, enjoy every day as if life is precious and short. You do not have to sit back, but you can relax and find pleasure in each day and in your accomplishments. Do what you can.
You have a legacy in your writing. YOU have created a very special place for important conversations, where you have inspired others who can carry on your legacy.
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Keep on truckin’; all of you.
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So glad to hear that you had medical advice that is improving your quality of life. When you commented, “And I counted on the blog. It was my daily work. It kept me engaged, distracted me from my problems, put me in touch with my virtual friends, involved me in what I enjoy most: thinking…” I think many public school teachers reading this blog CAN RELATE and say to you that your daily blog helps “distract” them and even propel them to action when facing top-down myriad teacher-related problems. Teacher blog readers know that they are not alone in their thinking as they read your blog articles and read comments from you and many other kindred spirits. Thanks for putting this together!!! Teachers are physically exhausted by the overload but the mental harm is even worse than their physical exhaustion and you provide them with “mental medicine”. So thank you, thank you and thank you!
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Thank you for your honesty. You ARE an inspiration to all of us. Please keep writing your thoughts, as doing what you like makes you stronger mentally and physically. You and Karen Lewis are in my prayers. With love.
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Diane, you have been an inspiration to me, and now I admire you more than ever. Please take care of yourself. We need your leadership.
God bless,
Helene Stone
Grants Pass, OR
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What you have been through since spring has been incredibly difficult. Any of us who have been sick even a couple of days or had a bad back that flairs up and puts us out of commission for a while know what a bummer it is. To go from functioning well to completely limited and in serious pain with a big question mark in our future? That’s tough, Diane. A little self-pity for a time is really ok. Take good care and I’ll be praying for a full recovery.
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Dear Diane,
You are indeed a dear and special person. Thank you so much for this post. It gives a lift in these post-midterm election dark times.
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Diane, is your honesty in this article to be perceived as a public statement acknowledging your homosexuality? When you stated, “What kept me going was my loving partner”, was that honesty empowering for you in a way that may help to overcome the depression? Your honesty may also encourage others who are feeling depressed about living a lie. Once a person faces their truth, a lot of barriers come down. More people in the US Congress and the corporate world need to follow your example.
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This isn’t the first time Diane acknowledged her loving partner.
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Michael, I am confused by your comment? Are you keeping count and why does it matter? So now that you have aroused my curiosity, and you seem to be an expert on this, when was the first time she acknowledged that she had a gay partner?
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What a hostile reply. Keeping count? Expert? I merely stated that Diane has acknowledged her partner on numerous occasions in the past. This is Diane’s blog allowing people interested in public education to comment and help fight against the corporate takeover also known as “reform”. You seem a bit sensitive about this. Is it because others also commented against your posting? (I didn’t keep count how many commented.)
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Ken, It is exactly this kind of picking simple statements out of the CONTEXT for which it was intended that is a ploy of those who the subvert intentions of speakers. Jon Stewart did a piece on that last night (Nov 6 2014)
Your own need to press an issue, puts an unnecessary color to a message that had no such intent… do that somewhere else, not here, and not to Diane.
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Susan, did you perceive my statement in a negative way and that is why you are being judgmental and critical? It was intended as a positive statement affirming Diane’s open and honest acknowledgement of her homosexuality that may inspire others feeling depressed about living in pretense. It is empowering to be truthful.
We have come a long way since colonial times when places such as my neighborhood that was once New Haven colony punished male and female acts of homosexuality with death. However, there is still such shame and prejudice in our society that most people fear coming out. Your reaction caused me to think I was being reprimanded for just mentioning it, which only perpetuates prejudice.
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No, I did not see your statement as negative, and I understand that you used her simple reference to insert a statement.
BUT, Ken, after being inundated by the electioneering, where every single word uttered by a person is subjected to intense scrutiny — which then allows all matter of tangental material, non-sequitors– to be inserted, I felt that this was simply inappropriate.
The context of the post was about Diane’s struggle. If she had thanked a son, would a post about the devotion of children been appropriate.
I get it… it is a special moment to discover wonderful people like Diane who live an alternate lifestyle. I noticed the reference and was proud that she gave the praise, but your insertion to the context of the post, I felt was unnecessary.
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Susan, it is not uncommon for people who work in research to zero in on a details that might be of interest. The Aspergers mind enjoys and focuses on details, while the normal mind usually does not. It is of interest for me to note that there is a higher than average rate of women in academia who are homosexual or asexual, and a high percentage of those women tend to have characteristics of Asperger’s Syndrome (High Functioning Autism). What kind of society would we be without people with differences? This blog alone is an example of obsessive compulsive behavior. Too many people think of OCD as a negative disorder, while it is often typical behavior for people with High Functioning Autism, and the driving force that makes them successful. Please refrain from criticizing people who need to express themselves in ways that may be different from yours. We need differences, and it is being different that makes Diane so special:
http://www.dana.org/Cerebrum/2002/The_World_Needs_People_With_Asperger’s_Syndrome/
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Often when I skim over this blog I get the impression that comments are acceptable only if they are in agreement with Diane and her followers, like a cult. Black and white thinking of Aspergers Syndrome seems to be the norm. Am I correct in guessing that we have a very large group of HFA folks who follow this blog?
High Functioning Autism and PTSD are believed to be the same condition, with both resulting from of chronic traumatic stress in childhood. The person with Aspergers Syndrome may have a neurological sensitivity that is genetic, but the traumatic stress that led to Dr Jekell Mr Hyde functioning was environmental. Aspergers Syndrome has become as typical in Academia, as on Wall Street.
Dr Jekell the professor is highly intelligent and can function well coping with emotional detachment and depersonalized dissociation in his work, but, in a less controlled or predictable environment like personal life, Mr Hyde’s regressed affective development will present his secret dark side, which is an adult child with the compulsive needs and behaviors of a five year old.
Since it is common for women in academia to have Aspergers Syndrome with masculine characteristics, the mystery is why they tend to hide their Mr Hyde side and not use their disorder for educational purposes.
It is obvious that the billionaire reformers and the politicians they own have “mind blindness” of Aspergers Syndrome; but why do our intellectuals in academia who could educate others on their childhood of traumatic stress, not speak up about the causes of the disorder?
It is not far fetched to think that our entire country is on the spectrum, so why are the intellectually elite not educating others about this?
http://autismdigest.com/context-blindness/
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