As soon as the Network for Public Education conference ended, four of us got into a car and set off on a trip from Raleigh to Chapel Hill to see Vivian Connell.
Bertis Downs rented a car, and brought me, Colleen Wood, and Phyllis Bush to the Connell home. Bertis has known Vivian for 30 years.
I first met Vivian in 2014, when I spoke at a meeting of state leaders and took the opportunity to rake the legislature over the coals for its mean spirited and short-sighted attacks on the teaching profession and public schools. In the same meeting, Vivian was on a panel of teachers who told the 1,000+ assembled leaders why they left teaching; most left because the salary was too meager to live on. Vivian left to go to law school. She wanted to be a social justice lawyer.
A few months later in 2014, Vivian came to the first meeting of the Network for Public Education in Austin, where Colleen and Phyllis met her. We were all smitten with her. She is intelligent, passionate, informed, and beautiful, inside and out.
Later we learned that she had been diagnosed with ALS (Lou Gehrig’s disease). There is no cure as yet. We were shocked and devastated.
Vivian began writing a blog about what was happening to her and her determination to live life to the fullest. She raised money to take a group of 25 students to the Holocaust Museum in DC. She traveled with her children. She methodically set goals and met them. She ticked off the items on her bucket list.
Vivian’s blog is called FinALS: My Closing Arguments. I have never known anyone who faced death with such courage and grace. I posted her first post here. I called it “Vivian Connell: Face of a Hero.” The post, I learned today, helped raise money for the trip to the Holicaust Museum.
Today, we went to Vivian’s house. We met her husband and her two beautiful children. Vivian was in a wheelchair with an attendant. She is paralyzed and can’t speak. But she has an amazing device attached to her wheelchair that is a screen. She is able to use her eye gaze to type messages, which is then spoken. She is as sharp and alert as ever, but immobile. We brought a gift for her: an autographed first edition of “To Kill a Mockingbird,” a book she loves. Phyllis found it on a rare book site and gave it to her as a gift from NPE. Vivian was very moved and held back tears.
I talked with her husband Paul (who adores her) and the conversation turned to what was happening in the state. I said something about the appointment of Margaret Spellings as president of UNC, and within two minutes, the machine pronounced a two-word epithet that is unprintable on this PG-rated blog. She has lost her voice, but not her sense of humor.
We left, with many hugs and kisses.
I want you to know this remarkable woman. Please read the last post she wrote, with the help of a friend, and be sure you watch the video, where she tells the story of what happened after she was diagnosed with ALS.
We left feeling blessed to know Vivian Connell. If you watch the video in her post, you will get to know her too. She is an inspiration, a testament to the human spirit.
You, are a very special person.
Thank you, Diane, for writing what I was thinking.
A VIP lesson about ALS that I learned over 50 years ago. Do not abandon people with this dreadful condition. The mind heart and need for love remains. Thanks for this important post which says so much about the compassion flowing from the moral center of all the participants in this meet up.
There’s a website to sign up to provide a dinner every night for Vivian’s family. I donated a meal online, due entirely to my admiration for this remarkable woman. Vivian listed the website in another post; maybe, Diane, you might post the link (I’ll research it for you if needed).
Lauren,
I would be grateful if you could send me the link for the site you mentioned.
Diane, your words help my heart. You have given those who do not know this special woman a sense of who she is and why she is so special to so many including her students. We all can probably list a handful of people who have impacted our lives in profound ways and for me Vivian is on that short list. I include her in my nightly prayers and every time I think of her I see this brilliant and beautiful woman in that red coat speaking with such passion in front of the Governor’s office on a chilly Saturday morning. She rocked her speech…she had the audience cheering and clapping at her every word – she spoke of her love for teaching, her worry about the teaching profession and how we are failing our children! And she has been doing this all of her life. One day shortly after she had started wearing a leg brace and using a walker, we were sitting in the House gallery at the Gen. Assembly watching a debate. As we departed that day, she told me not to worry that she was “not going to count the days, but make sure her days counted.” And she had done so! I have been fortunate enough to have crossed paths with this woman and it has enriched and inspired my life.
Vivian Connell, teacher—
“Those that know, do. Those that understand, teach.” [Aristotle]
A humble and deep-felt thank you to the owner of this blog for this posting.
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None of us who read your blog can doubt there is greed and evil in our country.
Vivian Connell, teaching for as long as she is able, provides the counterbalance.
Thank you, Diane, for sharing her powerful story with all of us.
Thank you for telling us about Vivian. I sent her a ridiculously long post, relating my sense of connection to her partly as one whose family was affected at one remove by ALS, & partly as one who’s immediate family was impacted by rare disease. Hoping she is still in good enough condition to read & relate; she seems to welcome ‘stories’.
Vivian reads and is very alert.