This letter is a moving tribute to everyone who works in schools every day to care for, nurture, and educate children.
It was written by Nebia Marquez-Greenhad, who lost one of her two children in the Sandy Hook massacre last December.
Her daughter Ana Grace died, her son survived.
In this letter, she thanks all of those who dedicate their lives to education.
Since teachers, principals, social workers, psychologists, librarians, and other school staff seldom get the thanks they deserve for their selfless work, I print her letter in full here.
As another school year begins and old routines settle back into place, I wanted to share my story in honor of the teachers everywhere who care for our children.
I lost my 6-year-old daughter Ana Grace on Dec. 14, 2012, in the rampage at Sandy Hook Elementary School. My son, who was in the building and heard the shooting, survived.
While waiting in the firehouse that day to hear the official news that our daughter was dead, my husband and I made promises to ourselves, to each other, and to our son. We promised to face the future with courage, faith, and love.
As teachers and school employees begin this new year, my wish for you is that same courage, faith, and love.
It takes guts to be a teacher. Six brave women gave their lives trying to protect their students at Sandy Hook. Other teachers were forced to run from the building, stepping over the bodies of their friends and colleagues, and they came right back to work.
While I pray you will never find yourself in the position of the teachers at Sandy Hook, your courage will support students like my son, who have lived through traumas no child should have to.
Your courage will support students who are left out and overlooked, like the isolated young man who killed my daughter. At some point he was a young, impressionable student, often sitting all alone at school. You will have kids facing long odds for whom your smile, your encouraging word, and your willingness to go the extra mile will provide the comfort and security they need to try again tomorrow.
When you Google “hero,” there should be a picture of a principal, a school lunch worker, a custodian, a reading specialist, a teacher, or a bus monitor. Real heroes don’t wear capes. They work in America’s schools.
Have faith that your hard work is having a profound impact on your students. Of the 15,000 personal letters I received after the shooting, only one stays at my bedside. It’s from my high school English teacher, Robert Buckley.
But you can’t be courageous or step out on faith without a deep love for what you do.
Parents are sending their precious children to you this fall. Some will come fully prepared, and others not. They will come fed and with empty bellies. They will come from intact homes and fractured ones. Love them all.
When my son returned to school in January, I thought I was going to lose my mind. Imagine the difficulty in sending your surviving child into a classroom when you lost your baby in a school shooting. We sent him because we didn’t want him to be afraid.
According to the 2011-12 National Survey of Children’s Health, nearly half of America’s children will have suffered at least one childhood trauma before the age of 18. They need your love.
A few weeks before the shooting, Ana Grace and I shared a special morning. Lunches were packed and clothes were picked out the night before, so we had extra time to snuggle. And while I lay in bed with my beautiful caramel princess, she sensed that I was distracted and asked, “What’s the matter, Mom?” I remember saying to her, “Nothing, baby. It’s just work.” She looked at me for a very long time with a thoughtful stare, then she told me, “Don’t let them suck your fun circuits dry, Mom.”
As you begin this school year, remember Ana Grace. Walk with courage, with faith, and with love. And don’t let them suck your fun circuits dry.

Thank you.
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Tears fall, words can’t be found.
Thank you for courageously sharing Ana Grace’s joy, faith and love through your beautiful words. Your gentle words and the spirit of your little angel, overflow my heart with love and heartfelt gratitude.
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Thank you! I’m glad that you had that special time with your daughter.
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“don’t let them suck your fun circuits dry”
This moving post saddens me greatly because I think of how the “fun circuits” of every teacher I know have been flooded by top-down, mandated crap that has taken away all their autonomy. These people are heroes. The horror that was NCLB and now of NCLB on steroids would have been a LOT worse but for the educators who cared so much that they persevered IN SPITE of the crap that was being forced upon them by deformers with their amateur notions about how teachers’ jobs should be done.
But there are limits. Teachers are sick to death of this. And their unions are putting out propaganda saying that teachers think that teachers just love having their autonomy stolen from them.
The deform nightmare will not last. It will collapse, as fascist impositions do, of its own stupid dead weight. But a lot of innocent kids will be crushed in the process.
“Lord, forgive them, for they no not what they do.” I think of this every time I look at the CCSS in ELA, which is almost daily.
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I copied, laminated and posted this letter, along with the picture of Ana Grace, on the wall behind the copy machine in the staff room. Everyone in my school will have the chance to read this beautifully written letter before the first month of school goes by.
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